Life Changing Decisions
Hello, my name is Sami.
This is my true teen pregnancy story about when I got pregnant.
I was 15 at the time.
I had only been with the guy for about 2 months.
I didn’t really know anything about sex.
I didn’t even bother and make sure to use a condom.
I want to share my story and the stories of others, because, like many other young women, we have to make a huge decision that will cause a huge change in our life.
I wrote this because I want people out there to know that there are many options and that there are people who know what they are going through.
Birth Control Methods
- Pill: a type of medicine that you take every day. Birth control pills contain hormones to prevent pregnancies by stopping you from ovulating. The pill is affordable and 99% effective – IF you take it when you are supposed to. The pill can also have additional health benefits.
- Implant: lasts up to 4 years. It’s a thin metal stick that goes under your arm. The implant can have side effects and contains hormones. It’s one of the most effective birth control methods: it’s more than 99% effective. There’s no way of making a mistake as long as you have it inserted and removed by a medical professional. The implant can be pretty expensive, but you can qualify for help and might not even pay for anything.
- IUD: a tiny device that is put into the uterus to prevent pregnancy. It is very efficient just like the implant and is available with and without hormones. IUD’s can last for about 12 years. They are sometimes referred to as Long Acting Reversible Contraceptives or LARC’s.
The only Birth Control Method that helps protect from STD’s AND Pregnancy:
- Condom: 98% effective when used properly. But, if they are not put on right or if you aren’t careful, they are only about 85% effective. Condoms are the only form of birth control that protects you and your partner from STD’S. They stop sperm from entering the vagina. Condoms are inexpensive and easy to get. They are also easy to put on.
Abortion is an option when someone is terminating a pregnancy. It’s often performed during the first few weeks during a pregnancy. There are different methods of abortion; one is the pill which is more of a natural process. There are two kinds of surgical abortions which involve a quick operation. The first one is the vacuum aspiration that can be done only up to 15 weeks and the dilation and evacuation which can be done up to 15 – 24 weeks.
There are people that consider abortion as a horrible thing to do. However, 1 in 3 women will have an abortion during their lifetime. Even though abortions are common and legal, people don’t know how hard and difficult it is to make a decision like that. Chance is that afterward you may still be left with guilt, pain and having to deal with the judgment of everyone out there. No one goes up to you and offers you help. It is so hard to take care of and raise a baby. But having to be forced or guilt-tripped to have the baby can make things much more difficult. I have had friends that have told me about their experience, and I can see how much they struggled to make a decision.
True Teen Pregnancy Stories
I ended up getting pregnant because the condom broke. I took 5 pregnancy test, but the only one said that I was pregnant. The other 4 said that I wasn’t. I ignored it and just thought that it was wrong because a few days later I started my period. I found out I was pregnant the day that I lost the baby. I had gone to the doctor because I was in a lot of pain. When I got to the doctor he told me that I was pregnant but that my body couldn’t support the pregnancy. The doctor gave me a pill to help me get the baby out, and for the next two hours, I was sitting on the toilet just waiting for the baby to come out. The doctor told me that if my body had been able to support the pregnancy that I would have died while giving birth because I wasn’t healthy enough. I look back at that and wish that I could have had my baby; to take care of it and hold it in my arms. But at the same time, I’m glad that it didn’t happen, because I wouldn’t have been able to watch it grow up.
I was only 15 when I got pregnant. The worst part was that it was conceived at a party. There were so much drinking and things I wasn’t supposed to be around. I was offered a drink by my boyfriend. I remember him telling me to go to the room. I was anxious but excited. Well, a month passes by and I start feeling weird. At first, I thought I was just getting sick. Some friend put the idea in my head of ‘I might be pregnant.’ So I bought a home pregnancy test which came out positive. I was afraid that sent a text to my boyfriend. When we met up I told him. His reaction was bad. He didn’t want it. He broke up with me. I was afraid and alone. A week went by before I decided to tell my mom. My mom was even worse. But she saw something in me, I guess, and, well, she decided to support me. Nine months later, I have a precious little boy. I got help from many people and even got child support from my ex. I was close to aborting him, but it wasn’t in me. I’m 17 now, and my boy is healthy and happy. So am I.
When I found out I was pregnant I didn’t even think twice about aborting. I saw that was my only option. My boyfriend and I were so young, we were not ready. I didn’t tell anyone about it. I got information from the internet in how to have a miscarriage by home remedies. I took one, and I wasn’t sure it was gonna work. Later that night, however, I was bleeding badly. I took care of it by myself. Till this day no one knows what I did, and I hope no one ever will. I’m glad I didn’t keep the baby because things went bad and with a baby, it would have been worse.
I had support from my family, but they still wanted me to have an abortion to make things “easier”. In a way I felt forced to do it, even my mom had set up an appointment at the doctors. My decision was made. I didn’t get to make the decision, and I know how it is to not have a voice.
I wanted to take responsibility but it didn’t happen.
One thing led to another, and, well, I had a miscarriage. I felt guilty and blamed myself for what happened. I believed I had caused the miscarriage myself for allowing my mom to make that call for me. It was really hard for me, and, as you can see by all our personal stories, the choices made weren’t easy.
By sharing some information and adding personal stories I hope that other young ladies know that they’re not alone. Many others have had to make hard life-changing decisions.